The most important post I will ever write

I do not think I am wrong with the title of my blog.  I have thought about the topic for a long while now.  Actually it is a question that has been haunting me for nearly 20 years and I could not find an answer.  About two months ago, it hit me while I was explaining something else to a brother. What was it that bothered me?  Christianity in general 🙂  The poor quality of it.  The “what is wrong with the Church” question.  Everybody else seems to also have the same problem and of course “the answer” as I wander around on the internet.  It tends to be more holiness and obedience on one side and more grace and love on the other side.  A-ha!! You thought that this was what this blog is about?  No and yes.

Very early in my walk I had the need for someone who walked before me, but there was no such person.  We as a group of young Christians were on our own.  The minister could not really help.  He was “up there”, not really down here.  And he had to take care of the whole congregation.  How did the one pastor respond to me?  “I simply do not have the time to be friends with everybody.”  And he was right.  So then….. there were the next bunch of people visible on Sundays.  The deacons and the elders and the music people.  They were there mostly as a function.  To collect money.  To pray for people.  To sing.  For many of them, it was part of the job.  Job done….. Christianity into the background.  The personal touch of leading young Christians to maturity… non-existent.  During the week, there was no visible contact with church members, except perhaps Wednesday evenings.   The babies had to take care of the babies.  The generational maturity discipleship path…… non-existent.

Then there were of course the successful Christians with the winning example formula that everybody had to follow.  Be like me!!  Trust God!!  The victory is yours!!  How to be prosperous!!  The “God came through for me” witness in front of the church.  I should know…. I was “up there” for a very real witness once.  I would call it the “results faith”.  Look at how-it-worked-out witness.  God works-in-wondrous-ways faith.  Do I sound a little bit cynical at this stage?  Actually I am not, I believe some of it.  Which of it?  Does it matter?  The holiness and obedience side will immediately jump up and say “Hell yes, it matters what you believe!!”  I’m glad you think so…  but there is something more important than correct belief.  (I can hear some of the buts….)  The problem with the triumphant Christian life were always those in the shadows.  The lonely ones.  Those that were struggling.  Those people where the “easy answer” dried up.  Where Job meets world.  Where God does not not do what we want Him to do.  And yes, there are many of those in the church.  What do we give them when words are lost in the pain?  How to be a winner?  The quick prayer of victory?  Do we as the church really believe that to reach discipleship maturity takes the victorious-2-minutes-of-prayer route?

As you can guess by this time, I want to include my mantra, discipleship, in the discussion.  The structured part of church does not have the knowledge, know-how or the will for any meaningful discipleship.   How can I say that?  Well, for one thing, the structure does not lend itself to a discipleship environment.  The Sunday message is the high point of the week while the building is seen as a special meeting place.  (I am not against these things.  They are however hindrances of a discipleship life.)  As long as the focus is a special meeting, we will miss Jesus is the everyday ordinary life where He was/is fond of living in.  If our expectation is for a Sunday meeting with God, well then discipleship is not for us.

So what is bothering me?  It’s a phenomena that I call “weird-Christianity” or “correct christianity” and it happens all over the Christian landscape.    Let me paint one typical picture I’ve seen repeating a lot in the organised part of church(Charismatic circle).  A person/s meet Christ and pursues God with everything.  They literally shine with God’s glory and they are wonderful to behold.  They cannot seem to get enough of Him.  They love Him with all their heart, soul and with all their power.  Nothing can stand in their way.  They get a lot of talk time and for a time in their lives, everything turns into black and white, right and wrong, for me and against me.  Sin is dealt with and revivals and mini-revivals can break out around them.  The Bible is seen as a book of Life.  It is a wonderful time.

After a while (1-3 years) however the glory begins to fade and the persons start to immerse themselves in the Bible as a source of “deeper knowledge of God.”  This is where the weird and the correct starts to come into being.  Somehow the person (correctly) contends with the fact that “there has to be more.”  Who can phantom the Mystery that is God?  Verses are flung together and theories are formed.  Daniel and Revelations are studied.  Just who is the beast?  When will the second coming be?  Just who is the remnant?  The theories that are formed start to exclude certain people.  The people in the excluded camp gets more in numbers as new criteria for holiness is found.  Sometimes, to get closer to God, people opt for the Jewish route.  The Sabbath, the seasons, the feasts, the customs and the law is explored, all in an effort to unlock the “deeper things”.  And of course people are divided in camps.  Us versus them.  The people of right belief versus the people of little effort.  They love God’s judgement and cannot wait to tell people of God’s judgement on the church/specific group/pastor/country/etc etc.  Pastors and ministers will know these people all to well, because they have become argumentative.  They will begin to speak against the church and the pastor and eventually they will leave in a bitter fit of anger.  Sometimes they will be thrown out.  Mostly they become loners or find a similar-belief small group which empowers them further to find the “deeper things of God”.

Why does this happen?

I believe the answer lies in discipleship or more accurately the absence of discipleship.  What is discipleship again?  The proses by which the character of Christ is formed in a person, helped by brothers and sisters who have walked the walk and continues to walk in the footsteps and example of Jesus in discipleship.  And Jesus was known as?….. lots of things, but in the end the disciples found out that it was as servant that Jesus would reveal Himself.  It was the washing of the feet that got to them.  How can the Son of God do such a lowly thing?  Servant…….servant-hood.  What did Jesus say?

That’s the way it is with the Son of Man. He did not come to be served,  but to serve and to give His life as a ransom for many people.”

Now, servant-hood is not glamorous at all.  It involves time and effort to serve the “the least of these” where Jesus is usually found.  Remember the sheep and the goats?  They were separated on their actions and not on correct-belief.  There is something more important than faultless belief.  I think I will dare to say that the character of Christ is ONLY established in servant-hood.  The Mystery of Christ is ONLY found in servant-hood.  The “deeper things of God” are only found during and in servant-hood.  The biggest lie in the church is that we think we can speak the truth without being a servant. 

Servanthood

You can read my previous sentence and dismiss it, but I am very serious.  The action of serving keeps us from becoming hypocritical.  The action of serving frees us from ourselves.

Why is this important?  Look at the holiness and obedience grouping of people in the church.  They quote scripture, revealing how important obedience is to God.  Lots of people are excluded.  Especially those who do not believe according to Scripture.  The pride is almost palatable.  Thank God, I am not like those people.  Where are their focus?  It is definitely NOT servant-hood and how do I know this?  No quotes about servant-hood on their Facebook walls and blogs.  Only perfect obedience will do and humility is a topic to be talked about.

And the feel good Christians who changed the gospel into a me, me, me message.  God came to serve me.  Therefore I am important.  I can now feel good about myself.  Whoo-hoo!!  God wants you to have your best life now.  You are beautiful.  You are affirmed.  This is about you!!  You love the message of freedom and grace because it gives you an excuse to sit there and soak in the warmth of God’s good feelings about you.  Where are their focus?  It is definitely NOT servant-hood and how do I know this?  No quotes about servant-hood on their Facebook walls and blogs.  Only quotes on freedom.

It was Jason Bradley that summed up the church of today perfectly.  We want to be loved, but we do not want to be bothered. 

Servant-hood is a non-negotiable.  It helps us to find Christ in the grind of life and it helps with the formation of His character in us.  And I am sorry to say, but servant-hood is accomplished by looking in the eyes of a person and holding them.  Serving a group without touch is not serving.  Please, please tell me where the idea comes from that spending an hour with people a week constitutes discipleship.   We have hands, arms, legs and feet to serve.

The reason why we have weird-christianity is because people are not led into servant-hood by mature believers by example.

The reason why christianity in general seems off?  People are not led into servant-hood by mature believers by example.

And the reason why servant-hood is lacking?  No discipleship.

And if we were wondering…. servant-hood will cost us.

Perhaps the next revival is around the corner…. when we as church begins to serve as Christ has served.

Philippians 2:
5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to His own advantage;
7 rather, He made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death even death on a cross!

Look at those verses.  Study them.  “Nature of a servant”  “I am the vine, you are the branches.”    Godly life is found in Jesus who came as a Servant.

Missing it

This post might be a little “all over the place”.  It has been a long time since I’ve blogged and I am out of practice.

(Part 1) I think this post started with the shooting of Michael Brown on August 9, 2014 in Ferguson, Missouri.  The incident sparked protests across America and in the aftermath a lot was written on inequality and the state of discrimination and indifference in America.  Two of my favourite bloggers, Kathy Escobar and Jason Bradley also added their thoughts in the aftermath.  You can read their thoughts here and here.  I replied to Jason, but because my writing can suddenly take a life of its own and I am not always very good at communicating, I gave as Jason put it a hyper-spiritualized response 😦  Oh well, so much for the art of sticking to the topic.  Both their posts revealed insight and awareness on the issue of privilege.  Privilege puts one in a position to help the downtrodden.  It puts you in a position to help those with no voice to speak…… and be heard.  Privilege gives you a platform from which you can launch helpful interventions.  Christians in the West are mostly privileged and it can use their advantage to help those less fortunate.  I think Jason nailed it and Kathy’s sensitive approach is needed.

(Part 2) It was my hyper-spiritualized response that bothered me. Why did I go off track? Perhaps it is my dwindling attention span as I get older? I wrote the following..

I do not believe that privileged people can give unprivileged people anything of value. It is the other way around. In God’s kingdom it is the unprivileged that knows how the kingdom work. The privileged needs to be between the unprivileged to experience the kingdom of God and learn how to share when you have nothing to give and love when hope and faith is gone. Those with power, trust in it and as long as they do, cannot understand the Kingdom of God.
We think that people who have, are privileged. We are wrong. God will reveal His Kingdom, but it will not be through us, the privileged.

“Privileged people can not give unprivileged people anything of value.”  Sheesh, what was I smoking? Of course they can and I was off topic. I talked to God about it.  Where did this left field response come from?

It took me a while, but I finally figured out there is something in my heart that has been growing and I did not have the words to express them.  Jason’s blog helped me.  Let me see if I can express it more clearly.

It starts with Matthew 4:17 where Jesus said that the Kingdom of God is here or at hand depending on the translation you use.  We further see that the Kingdom of God is bound to the Person of Jesus.  In Luke He says “For behold, the kingdom of God is in your midst.” Jesus talks about the Kingdom of God or heaven throughout the gospels.  I am not going to go into great detail on the Kingdom of God except to say that it is here, now.  (There are people who differ from me on this.)

Anyway, in Matthew 19:16-25 we have the story of the rich young man who came to Jesus and asks what he must do to obtain eternal life.  First Jesus tells him to keep the commandments.  The young man affirms that he is keeping them and then Jesus tells him to sell all he has and follow Jesus.  He went away sad because he had a lot of stuff.  Then Jesus said this, “23 Truly I say to you, it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. 24″Again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”  The young man missed the Kingdom right in front of him.

This brings me back to privilege.  It seems from this passage that privilege blinds us to the Kingdom here and now.  The rich young man could not enter a kingdom because he could not see it.  The same with us who are privileged now.  We do not see the Kingdom because our privilege is blinding us from what God is doing now.  Jesus told the young man to get rid of his privilege.  He could not.  Can we?  Can I?  This is where people will tell me that I am taking this to far.  This is not what is meant by these passages. You will say to me that you are already a Christian and thus already in the Kingdom.  Yes and no.  We can be part of something and still miss the essence of it.  The older brother of the prodigal could not see even when he was next to the Father.  Our privilege blinds us.

Perhaps this post is born in the inequality I see in the church and the part that irks me, is that haves (privileged) are the only ones that can give.  It is the well spoken, the good looking, the athletic, the bold, the talented, the clever, the successful, the miracle and the example who are active visible part of church.  Power, wisdom and knowledge flows from them to those less fortunate in the congregation.   What can God do through the less fortunate or are the less fortunate only present to give the haves function and meaning?    WHAT CAN THE POOR GIVE THE PRIVILEGED????  Well, I believe the poor can give you the full Kingdom of God, but you will have to leave privilege to see it.  Let me give a few verses and you can explain them back to me.

Matthew 5:3
“Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Luke 6:20
Looking at his disciples, he said: “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.

Matthew 25:45
“He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’ (Sheep and the goats.)

1 Corinthians 12:22
On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable,

We have to stop believing that privilege is an enabler in the Kingdom.  It is not.  It blinds us.

Children share

I’ll end with my hyper-spiritualized response, this time within context.

I do not believe that privileged people can give unprivileged people anything of value. It is the other way around. In God’s kingdom it is the unprivileged that knows how the kingdom work. The privileged needs to be between the unprivileged to experience the kingdom of God and learn how to share when you have nothing to give and love when hope and faith is gone. Those with power, trust in it and as long as they do, cannot understand the Kingdom of God.
We think that people who have, are privileged. We are wrong. God will reveal His Kingdom, but it will not be through us, the privileged.

If we as church do not understand this, we will always struggle be be light and salt for the earth and we will miss the Kingdom here and now.

Prone to wander

John Acuff at Stuff Christians like talked on my birthday about a worship leader that changed the words of an old hymn.  The original words that were changed were these….

Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,
Prone to leave the God I love;
Here’s my heart, O take and seal it,
Seal it for Thy courts above.

He changed it to a more victorious “Prone to worship, prone to praise.”

Why is it that we have the compulsion to equate God with success?  We are currently going to a medium sized congregation and the message Sunday after Sunday is “God will make things better”  And don’t get me wrong, I know God is with the leaders and the members of that congregation.  But I struggle with that kind of message severely.  Perhaps it’s because it’s one side of the coin and that side is held up every Sunday for everybody to see.  I believe that this causes the church a lot of harm.  Perhaps it’s because discipleship is mostly absent from the church.  With discipleship you see the mess.  Feel the frustration.  Experience the doubt.  Sense the pain.  Enjoy the laughter.   Guess what the hell is going on.  Practice boredom.  Wasting time.  Prone to wander……etc. etc.

Perhaps it’s just me.  It’s sometimes easier to not believe.  Then we don’t have to struggle with a God that’s not doing His part.  I am His child and I want good things to happen but it seems that He is absent from all my good plans.  Complain, grieve, lament, moan, mourn, regret, sing the blues, weeping.  Do we have to do these things away from Sunday’s?  Where nobody can see us?  Is Sunday the victorious day and all the other the real life days?  Could be.  Perhaps I’m out of sync.

John ends his post by saying the following.

We tell each other we’re not prone to wander.
We act like our days of falling down are forever behind us.
And we create environments where no one can be honest.
You can’t share your whole life with somebody when the expectation is that you don’t fail.
You can only share the victories. And if you don’t have any victories that day or week, you better act like you do. Because as a Christian, you shouldn’t be prone to wander. And if you have, you just might not be a real Christian after all.

I love Jesus.  That is why I struggle with Him every day.  You can join me whenever you want to 🙂

Dead

Jesus came to raise the dead. The only qualification for the gift of the Gospel is to be dead. You don’t have to be smart. You don’t have to be good. You don’t have to be wise. You don’t have to be wonderful. You just have to be dead. That’s it.”   Robert Farrar Capon

Other people

When I talk about “inclusion” of people … I am not talking only about starting up special schools or residences or creating good soup kitchens or new hospitals … I am not saying we should be kind to such people because they are human beings. Nor it is a question of “normalizing” them in order that they can be “like us,” participate in church services, and go to the movies and the local swimming pool. When I speak of the inclusion of those who are marginalized I am affirming that they have a gift to give us all …The excluded, I believe, live certain values that we all need to discover and to live ourselves before we can become truly human. It is not a question of performing good deeds for those who are excluded but of being open and vulnerable to them in order to receive the life that they can offer; it is to become their friends. … they will change things in us. – Jean Vanier

What do we believe about small?

There is a general consensus that a small setting/few people are better for connecting with each other and with God.  Almost all denominations have small groups.  Some denominations are just small 🙂 We have the house church movement. Small Christian communities can be found all over the world.  Most of the leavers of the organised part of church actively promote a smaller setting for coming together.  I am one of them.

But for some time I’ve been wondering, how far are we willing to take what we believe?  Let me explain.  If we believe in small personal settings for getting to know God, do we then also believe in the preciousness of the small everywhere?   Will we rather go to the small one-owner store than the mall?  All around us individuals are trying to make it on their own little space.  Will we be the ones who connect and support them?  Hairdresser, mechanic, bookshop etc.

The reason I ask is because, especially in business, there are large systems at work.  These systems do not really care about the small guy/gal.  (The church is not the only space around us who became a system.)  We live in these systems.  Are we going to get out of them as well, or is it only the church that bothers us?

What are your thoughts?

Discipleship on and on and on

Yesterday, I equaled discipleship with the relationship a parent with a baby/newborn.  That’s exactly what I believe discipleship is.  When a baby is born, it is the parents that have to find their feet.  They are the ones who have to get up at night.  It is their schedule that is compromised.  I say this because lots of people see discipleship as a relationship where the child has to do everything the parent tells him/her.  The discipleship movement was especially tough in this area.

So, you have a new born Christian on your hands.  What do you give him/her?  What do you do?  In the beginning there’s lots of poop and crying.  It the parents that clean up the mess, not the child.  They spend a lot of time with each other.  Bonding takes place.  The child starts to crawl.  He/she starts to copy what the parents do.  After a while they give their steps.  They fall.  It’s important to know here that a child is not told how to walk.  He/she is shown.  And they will fall.  That’s OK.  You have to let them fall; otherwise they will never get the walk-thing.  Slowly over time they learn what’s it like to be part of a family.  They learn how to play.  I’ve read about it and seen it.  Children who are loved and know they are loved, explore more.  Their world is bigger.  The love they feel, give them the security to move farther away from us.  And so, time goes on.  In teenager stage they might rebel.  Question everything.  See a bigger world full of unjust things.  Become more self-interested.  They ask questions like “What is my place” in all of this.  How do I fit in?  Do I want to fit in?  (Important these questions are.)  More time goes by.  They grow up and come to a place where they are ready to be parents.  You don’t see each other as much as when they were babies.

That to me is discipleship.  I think it’s also important to note that it’s also the interaction of two paths.  You are on your road towards more of God.  He/She is on THEIR road towards God.  It’s not the same path.  The greatest gift you can give a person is to let him/her find their own path.  Let them make mistakes.  Let them seek.  Don’t give so many answers.  Ask them what they want to do, and let them do it even when you know they may fail.  You are NOT helping the person if he/she becomes a replica of you.  If you control the person or use control to do what you want, you are not of God.  Jesus actually made it very difficult for people to stay with Him.  They could walk away at any time.  The parent is the servant.  Not the other way around.  As time goes by, you will spend less time with each other.  You will not see each other twice or three times a week.  Perhaps once a month or less.  Time will take you apart.  You will call each other friends because that is what you became and the bonds will be strong even if you are many miles apart.

Pro 27:17  Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.

Ecc 4:9  Two are better off than one, because together they can work more effectively.  Ecc 4:10  If one of them falls down, the other can help him up. But if someone is alone and falls, it’s just too bad, because there is no one to help him. Ecc 4:11  If it is cold, two can sleep together and stay warm, but how can you keep warm by yourself ? Ecc 4:12  Two people can resist an attack that would defeat one person alone. A rope made of three cords is hard to break.

In the end, I believe discipleship is friends walking together in Jesus.

Discipleship is too slow

I’ve been thinking a lot about discipleship the last few weeks.  I’ve written about discipleship before and much of this post will echo that post’s sentiment.  Maybe it’s just the sceptic in me, but I do not know if we will ever see discipleship functioning in the church.  It’s just too slow for us.

Let me give you a quick round-up what I believe on discipleship.  It’s a process of a babe becoming a grown-up and a grown-up helping the babe along the way.  It’s not something we have in the church.  We believe more in the jug-to-mug way as Mark put it today.  I’m going to give some numbers as to the time frame I believe in.  Please, these are not set in stone.  I’m wrong a lot.  Don’t bite my head off if you differ from me.

I always connect discipleship with 1 John 2 where we find these verses.

1Jn 2:12 I am writing to you, little children, because your sins are forgiven for his name’s sake.
1Jn 2:13 I am writing to you, fathers, because you know him who is from the beginning. I am writing to you, young men, because you have overcome the evil one. I write to you, children, because you know the Father.
1Jn 2:14 I write to you, fathers, because you know him who is from the beginning. I write to you, young men, because you are strong, and the word of God abides in you, and you have overcome the evil one.

We all know these verses.  I like these verses because there is an element of growth in them.(From babe to grown-up).  Also, these verses show that it doesn’t matter how “old” you are, God is just as present with the babe as with the grown-up.

Time frame wise – You must be at least 28 years old to be a father/mother and I am being very lenient with the 28.  I would prefer 30-35 years old.  To go from babe to grown-up – at least 8 years when you have someone who is discipling you.  If you had to fend for yourself like most of us had to(children growing up by themselves) – 15 to 20 years.  This is a very broad generalization.  There is no rule when it comes to God.  He can use anybody any age as He wishes.  Young people will probably kill me for this time frame.(I would have), but I believe life has to throw a lot of stuff at you, before you are ready to be a father/mother in the church.  You could also tell me that Paul began some congregations and left after only for three weeks.  I know.

All I’m trying to say is that it takes longer to go from babe to grown-up if you do not have parents.  And…some people in church, do not have the weight to be parents.  I’ve always marvelled at the irony of today’s church.  I’ve seen people getting into leadership after they have been Christians for 6 months, because they are learnt (doctor, professor, lawyer etc.), have charismatic personalities, have money, are beautiful/brawn/smart.   I can find this almost amusing, if it wasn’t so depressing.  But then again, a babe looking after babes is the norm in church, not the exception.  We are not known for our “deep” spirituality.  Perhaps, it has something to do with the fact that we simply do not believe in discipleship as an option in today’s church.  In my 40 years I’ve only met 1 pastor who discipled.  It gives me the creeps when I hear about a three week course in discipleship.

We still believe church growth is about numbers or we equal knowledge with growth.  Well, from where I am standing, it seems God does not always prefer the numbers or reveals Himself to those with the most knowledge.

Discipleship is about growth.  Jesus-Life-Growth in real life.  Funny that we believe Sundays and Wednesday evenings (choose your own day) is enough for this to happen.

More tomorrow. (I hope 🙂

Live the slow

It was Charles Kuralt who said,

Thanks to the Interstate Highway System, it is now possible to travel from coast to coast without seeing anything.”

I think the same apply how we live the christian life and for that matter life in general.  Speed and our modern way of living is killing our ability to look and see the stuff and people around us.  When I drive to work, I look at other cars, pedestrians(notice, they are not people anymore), road signs and other possible dangers.  When I walk to work, I can look around and think around a lot more.  In short, I can take a lot more in.  Time it seems, is a funny thing, the faster we go, the less of it we have.  When I go to a fancy restaurant, I am willing to wait 30 minutes for my food.  Go to MacDonald’s or any fast food outlet and see what happens when you have to wait for 30 minutes 🙂

Some people believe the church will be more effective when it is streamlined like a highway.  We try to get people from one place to another as quickly as possible.  Discipleship is now a three week course.  Something you do in a weekend seminar.  By doing that, we encourage our fellow travelers to miss out on their journey.  Not only that, by trying to streamline people’s journey, we also miss out on the journey of the people around us.  There is no time to connect.  No time to share.  No time to experience.  Church then, becomes an artificial place full of well meaning people with no substance behind our actions.  We become people of the quick fix.  People of THE FORMULA.  Our help begins to look like this…“What’s wrong with you?  Oh?  Here is the verse that will cure you.  Are you feeling better already?” or “Do things this(God’s) way and you will have no problems whatsoever.  Are you feeling better already?”  The church, it seems, excel in “being afraid to live”.

Problem is of course; life is meant to be lived.  Going for the shortcuts doesn’t work.  Trying to make the journey faster with formulas and unfilled words only helps to create unoccupied experiences.  Jesus was real and He took His time.  He did not miss the cross because He was in a hurry.  On His journey people could talk to Him, touch Him, cry with Him and laugh with Him.  We are so afraid of an unhurried life.  It will mean we have to slow down and actually look people in the eyes.  Make contact.  Experience each other’s pain, problems and laughter.  Be a shoulder to rest upon.  It takes time to develop authentic friendships.  (It took Jesus +/-3 years.)

I don’t think church is meant for the highway.  Perhaps it is time to get off and learn how to live the slow.

Give yourself

Seems like I’m still in the “giving” theme.  This quote comes from Juan Carlos Ortiz.

Now we must make a concrete application. When we speak about love or anything else in the Bible, we must be specific, or it is like sewing without first making a knot at the end of the thread. You can sew and sew and sew, but things stay the same as they always were. Sometimes we even try to sew without any thread at all—just the needle. All we do is make little holes. But the garment stays torn because we don’t take specific steps to conserve our gains.
God does not say, “Love your neighbors.” You cannot love the whole world. He says, “Love your neighbor.” So take one person, one family. Start to pray for that family. Start to look for their problems, their needs—spiritual, material, psychological, all kinds of needs.
Don’t go to them with a tract; you will look like a sales-man. Go to sell yourself. Go to give yourself to them. Let them know that you love them, and give your service to them.  We had an older lady in Argentina who, as she put it, “could never win a soul to Jesus.” (Actually, we don’t believe in winning souls; we believe in winning the soul, body, and spirit—the whole person.) She had been in the church many years. But one day the Lord showed her His Love. She understood that God didn’t send a tract from heaven; He sent His Son, who came and lived with us and healed people. He helped us and shared with us.
The woman decided she could do the same thing.  In front of where she lived was a house for rent. As soon as the new people arrived, she was prepared. She went over with coffee and donuts and said, “I’m bringing you something to eat, because I know you’ve just moved, and you don’t have things ready for cooking yet. I’ll come back later to get the dishes—don’t bother to wash them, because I know you’re busy.  “And by the way, if you want to know about the grocery store, it’s at such-and-such a corner ….” She didn’t put a tract under the donut. She just brought the food and gave them help.  After awhile she came back to get the dishes. She said, “If you need something else, I’m here. If you want anything, I’ll be glad to help you.”
She never preached about Christ. But a month later the whole family was baptized because of the light she had brought them.  Jesus didn’t say, “Let your mouth speak before men in such a way that they may hear your nice words and glorify your Father.” He said, “Let your light shine”—your love!